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    Posted on: 05/11/2004

    Question

    how do you know a guy likes you and not using you for sex

    Submitted on 03/29/04 at 12:51:26


    Answer

    When a guy really likes a girl he cares about all aspects of her life. He wants to make sure that she is happy most of the time, that she is safe and she feels like he cares. And he wants the girl to know about the things in his life that he cares about.

    When a guy is just using a girl for sex he doesn't see her as a whole person, so he isn't really interested in the rest of her life or her feelings.

    So look for these things--Is he concerned about you being alone outside at night?? Does he come meet you somewhere safe and then take you back to a safe place after you have been together? Does he care about what happened to you during the day? Does he ask about your family and your friends? Does he try to make you feel important--even just noticing clothes, or making sure you are warm enough or had enough to eat. Does he want you to meet his family and does he like to show you the things he is interested in?

    If a guy is not consistently doing most of those things then he probably is more interested in sex then the girl herself.


    Answered By:
    Barbara Boyer , D.O.


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