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Posted on: 08/20/2004
I've been suicidal before. Now, the same feelings are coming back, but directed at my mother. She is the source of every shred of anger and hurt that I feel, and is incapable of even taking care of herself. I can't deal with her to begin with, but now I don't know how to deal with her AND me. What can I do?
You have done the right thing by asking for help. You sound very self-aware, which is a real strength. You will also need help; professional help is called for when suicidal feelings strong, negative, and alarming thoughts persist. Certainly share with another grown family member you trust and whose good judgment can be counted on, if one is available. Support from other sources such as grown family friends, church, even good friends' parents, can be useful. Most of all, though, you need to talk over your situation and feelings with a counselor well trained in adolescents. There are several clinics in the community, including ours, that see adolescents and can work with you individually or with some or all of your family. Also, other family or friends, and your school counselor could be useful in finding a therapist. Some resources are listed on this website, and of course in emergencies there is 911, and 24-hour crisis lines (County: 650-494-8420). Good luck, and remember, if it is painful for you it probably is for everyone in some way that is in the situation; and you can get help for feeling better.