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Posted on: 09/16/2004
Question
I'm turning thirteen next week, and I started puberty at 11. I have been going through a lot of changes and every time I want to have a man to man talk with him about the things that I'm going through and he ignores the situation instead my mother has to discuss with me and I don't feel comfortable that my own mother has to tell me and you know it's a guy thing well anyway. I want to know how can I get my dad to listen to me?.
Answer
Well I can only suggest that you say calmly and lovingly to your mom that you appreciate her willingness to talk to you about sexuality and growing up, but you would rather talk to a male about it. Second, you say to your father that you appreciate that talking about growing up and sexuality are tough for parents, but you really want to talk to him about it. If both of things fail, then it is time to find another adult male that will talk with you about these things - your doctor would be a good choice, or a teacher you trust. There are also several good books you could ask your mom to order for you - one is called "What is going on down there." Good luck.