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    Posted on: 01/10/2005

    Question

    My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about a year now and it seems like the more we do it the more he wants it for himself. I don't get much pleasure out of it, it seems like once he's satisfied were done. It doesn't appear to bother him that I'm not happy. What should I do to let him know that I need to be pleasured too?

    Answer

    Well the first thing will have to be making time to talk about this very important topic - a time that is not right before or after sex, when both of you are relaxed and comfortable. Second, you are the person who has to bring this issue up and be willing to explain how you feel and why you think this is important in your relationship.

    Unfortunately, I assume there are other areas in the relationship that you feel "unimportant," and talking to a counselor or clergy member might help. Most insurance companies will cover some emotional counseling, check out whether yours does.

    Good luck, and keep in mind that you are important and deserve to be appreciated and cared about.


    Answered By:
    Nancy Brown , Ed.S, M.A., Ph.D.


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