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Posted on: 02/15/2005
Question
I was with my girlfriend a few weeks ago and for some reason I could not get an erection even though I did have one when we were making out, I lost it as she put her hand down there. Yesterday (although I was under the influence of alcohol this time) I did get an erection when she was giving me a hand-job but as soon as I put the condom on it went. I know alcohol can affect erections but the time a few weeks ago I was not under the influence of alcohol. I think it may be anxiety, because I was nervous and it would have been my first time.
Answer
Chances are good that your nervousness is the problem, but you are right, alcohol does not help. You will have to relax.
Make sure you think you are really ready to become sexual, and then do not worry. If the problem persists, you can see your doctor and a counselor. Do not make yourself feel worse though, it happens to most everyone at some point.