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Posted on: 03/14/2005
Question
This is kind embarrassing, but I feel like I am too horny. Like I am always craving sex or sexual intimacy. I understand not to be promiscuous, but I still think about sex all the time. With my boyfriend sometimes it got hard because I always wanted to have sex and I don't want that to be our relationship. I wasn'nt abused or anything ever, but I do have self esteem issues and have had an eating disorder for three years. But I've been obsessed with sex for longer than that. Is something wrong with me?
Answer
It does sound like you are having a difficult time. When you have some basic insecurities the comfort offered by sex (and food ) can become very powerful. This can create feelings of craving which lead to more stress and insecurity. Sometimes you can work on this on your own by striving toward a BALANCE of activities in your life. THINKING through what is right for you and your values in terms of sex and what is healthy in terms of food. Then you can work on finding other things in life that are meaningful for you. Do you like to play music or participate in a sport? When you are involved in other things you won't be thinking about sex. Sometimes these desires are not easy to over come and asking a family member, school counselor or your physician to help you find a therapist is a good decision. Good Luck.