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Posted on: 08/16/2005
Question
My dad committed suicide when I was 10 and I was just wondering if you have any info on people dealing with that type of stuff? And should I have gone to a counselor?
Answer
The loss of a parent, especially to suicide, is something you revisit at every new phase of life. Often there are questions: Is there something I could have done? Why would he do that to me? Am I at risk for problems like his? There is a lot of sorting out to do. For some people this sorting out can de done with a family member, some times a religious leader is helpful and for others a counselor is beneficial. I find that it is important to find some way to talk things over until you get to the point that you know and understand your feelings and reactions and they don't pop up unexpectedly and effect your daily life. For example, if you expect you will be a little upset at your graduation because your father won't be there is understandable. However, if you go to graduation and see a friend with their father and are surprised that you are having strong feelings, that needs some attention. Stuffing those feelings inside just makes it worse. I'm sorry I can't recommend a book or Web site, although I am sure there are some. I hope this helps.