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First of all you need to STOP trying to put your penis inside her. Once someone has had a lot of pain it is very difficult for them to get interested in intercourse until they have some happy memories to block out the pain. So go back to "petting", kissing and massages. PROMISE her you won't try to put your penis in her. And keep your word.
Then make an appointment to see her doctor and have her checked out to make sure she is fine. There are some problems women can have that can make sex uncomfortable.
AFTER she has been checked out ask the doctor the best way to try penetration. He will probably suggest that she is on top of you. There are pictures in The Joy of Sex if she is unfamiliar with what you are suggesting.
But really STOP now for several weeks. Just enjoy each other in other ways.
Barbara Boyer , D.O.