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Posted on: 09/02/2005
Question
What do I do if I live in a motel with five other people: my mom, step dad, two brothers and a sister. I have no space and I'm in independent studies. I have a few friends and don't go out much. What do you think I should do?
Answer
You have little space or privacy to yourself it sounds like, and also do not have an alternative environment during the school day. You have challenges. I would suggest you meet as a family, if you haven't already, and discuss how to separate guaranteed personal space. Even if it's just a few inches or feet in a designated area, you each need a place you can call your own and know no one will intrude. You might each share how you feel about your circumstances and problem-solve together constructively, without complaining or blaming. When tension gets high, take a breather and let others do the same. If there is any safety issue of any kind within the family, seek help directly through family resources and hotlines, many of which can be found on PAMF's teen Web site. Have you explored town or city resources for teen groups and activities? Do you have extended family you can visit? With or without your siblings, occasionally? Do you work at all? Part-time jobs, even volunteering (which is needed in a variety of areas in any community) offer a chance to get to know new people, feel effective and appreciated, and develop skills and independence. In the meantime, take good care of yourself, which includes accomplishing the school work you'll want to have completed.