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Second, try to focus on other people because if you are focusing on their story you don't have to think about yourself. Having a few conversation starter questions can help. For example: What kind of music do you like? Have you tried any new video games lately?
A third point is to remember that it doesn't really matter how you answer most of the time. If some one asks you what music you like and hip hop comes to mind even though you mostly like rock go ahead and say hip hop. We all can change from day to day. Try setting small goals for yourself: I will say hello to three people today. I will raise my hand in one class. I will ask another shy person if I can sit with them at lunch. Nothing helps you get over a problem better than small constant successes.
If you feel that even this is more than you can handle, ask your parent, doctor or school counselor to refer you to a therapist who could meet with you and help you figure this out.
Gina Earle , LCSW