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Posted on: 01/12/2006
Question
I'm 20 and I've been going out with my boyfriend for 18 months. Recently we decided we are ready for sex, but it is too painful. We have tried lubrication, different positions and we are both relaxed. But it is still too painful. I heard that a doctor can remove the hymen in a few minutes without an anesthetic or anything. The doctor can do it there and then in his office. Is this true? Or have you any other solutions?
Answer
Painful intercourse can have many causes, including an imperforated hymen. In order to see if you have this condition, you should have an exam by your primary care physician or gynecologist. This is easily corrected with minimal surgery. They usually use spinal or general anesthesia due to the sensitivity of the area (unless it appears they decide it can be done under local anesthesia). Other causes of painful intercourse include: inadequate arousal, inadequate lubrication or other anatomical problems. It is best to see your physician to have an exam and discuss this issue. As is always recommended, please practice safe sex and use a condom EVERY TIME!