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Posted on: 01/26/2006
Question
I have a son who is 17 and clearly depressed. How do I get him help if he won't go and see someone. He has also talked about suicide.
Answer
You are right to be very concerned if your son has talked about suicide. Although, it may be that he just wants to get out of the pain and not really harm himself, we know that teens are at risk for impulsive behavior and especially males. I would seek help right away from his physician who may be able to convince him to go for help or consider medication. Some schools have counselors who can meet with students and help them sort out what to do if they are not ready to seek medical treatment. I would tell him how alarmed you are by his talk of suicide and how much you care about him and want him to get help. Don't take no for an answer. Help him understand that depression is a common problem for many people and it may be related to hereditary factors as well as whatever stress he is experiencing. Go with him to the appointment to help him feel supported and that you are willing to learn what you can do to help the situation. If nothing else works, sometimes friends or other family members can be enlisted to help talk with him. Depression is the most common of all the psychiatric diagnoses and there are lots of very good treatments available.