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    Navigate: FAQ Home Page > Rape/Sexual Assult > 30-year-old boyfriend
    Posted on: 08/03/2006

    Question

    I am in a current relationship with a 30 year-old-old man and he pressures me to have sex, but I keep on telling him I'm not ready. He gets mad everytime I tell him this. I love him so much and told him if he loves me he would wait. We have waited for sometime now. How can I keep him patient with me?

    Answer

    I am sorry, but the only advice I can give you is to talk with an adult you trust, break up with this boyfriend, and if he does not leave you alone completely, report him to the police.

    I know that you love him, but it is obvious that he does not return that love and is only interested in sex, which he may feel you "owe" him for gifts, money, attention, etc. You are right, if he loved you, he would not pressure you. If you have sex with him, you risk pregnancy and sexually transmitted diseases, since he is obviously sexually experienced. You are probably not the first girl he has pressured into sex and he can go to prison for having sex with a minor. It is illegal. These laws are to protect you from people like him. I am sorry, but please listen to your heart!




    Answered By:
    Nancy Brown , Ed.S, M.A., Ph.D.


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