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Posted on: 08/03/2006
I am a teen boy and I generally masturbate two to three times a week. Now I want to completely stop masturbating as I now tend to concentrate more towards God. Can you tell me how can I do that? Is there any sorts of dangers if I stop masturbating completely?
This is a difficult question to answer. In short, there is no proven or medical way to stop masturbating and, other than frustration and restlessness, no known physical harm can occur if you stop masturbating.
In the medical community masturbation is considered normal and even a healthy and safe expression of sexuality both alone and with a partner. In some religious communities any expression of sexuality outside a defined relationship (marriage) is considered a sin or at least a distraction from the divine. It is inappropriate to apply a medical model to a religious conviction. From my perspective, masturbation by any person, teenager or adult, boy or girl, is normal and does not warrant comment or intervention. I would also say that sexual expression is private and personal until you develop a safe, comfortable and committed relationship in which to express and explore your sexuality.
I would suggest thoughtful prayer about this issue and encourage you to avoid condemning yourself if you masturbate. Shame and self reproach can lead to health problems like depression and can potentially interfere with healthy sexual expression when the time is right for you.