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Posted on: 08/11/2006
Question
Hi this is the first time I found a place to ask something I have wanted to ask for a long time. I was forced to have sex when I was almost 13, but now I am 19 and after few months I saved myself from that action, now I badly need to know, if I get married, will the guy know I am not a virgin? Due to my religous statue I am avoiding marriage for this, I would really like to know if there is any other way that I can let him know I am a virgin without telling him the truth and the surgical, thank you, it will so much help, I will look forward to the answer! Thank you again!
Answer
I am so sorry that you were forced to have sex when you were younger and I hope that you have found a counselor or even a member of the clergy to talk to about that experience.
Physically, you may not have a hymen, but many young women do not have a hymen after playing sports, accidents, etc... Your first voluntary sex may not have bleeding, but you will obviously be inexperienced, and the man who shares that experience with you will hopefully not be concerned about the details.
You have never voluntarily chosen to have sex and I hope that you can feel like a virgin and when the time is right for you, have a satisfying relationship with the man you love.