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Posted on: 10/01/2006
Question
My Mom, brother, and I have been through a lot of things in the past two years. Most of them have been worked out, and I went to a counselor for a month for one thing, but my Mom is not being there for me, she thinks I'm against her when I'm just trying ot be there for her, and she is taking her stress out on me with yelling and such, she is not realizing I have my own and that she is the parent and should help me, furthermore everytime I find a friend that listens or even just a dog to to talk to she complains about them or their behavior. I reallly do not know what to do and I'm getting fed up with it, can you help?
Answer
It sounds like you're ready to look at some difficult feelings again and would do well in getting help in doing that. One month of counseling is not very long, and you'll want to take the time to develop solid coping skills and self-awareness for your own years ahead. It's hard to sort out the individual stresses within a close household, undoubtedly you're not the only one feeling things need help. Find a counselor you feel comfortable with, begin your own counseling work rather than being too quick to have your mom included, since you're maturing and will need to develop your own sense of self-sufficiency with regards to handling your feelings. Moms can also have difficulty separating, figuring out their own feelings and responses independent of how/what their kids are doing, and they may need help too but that help needs to come from their own therapeutic work--and remember, your help is not dependent on what your mom does or does not do. Good luck!