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Posted on: 10/01/2006
Question
Me and my boyfriend are deeply in love, or rather thats how i feel, im not sure he feels the same, but he is very sensitive and insecure about almost everything which makes the relationship difficult, i know that it will be very very difficult for him if we split or became 'friends' again, most recently he said that hes not sure he trusts me, i love him to bits and dont want to break up, but is a relationship there is there isnt any trust? I dont know what to do.
Answer
Your question about the importance of trust in a relationship is a good one. It sounds as if you may have begun to answer it : as you report, being in a relationship with someone who is insecure and mistrustful makes things very difficult.You didn't describe the particular problems that have arisen, but I can imagine that time spent with your friends or simply times when you are out of contact your boyfriend may have caused conflict.I can also imagine that his doubts about your trustworthiness were hard to hear. Unless you can think of some behavior on your part which has given him real cause for concern, it is likely that his difficulty trusting reflects a personal problem that only he can solve.To get back to your question, a relationship with no trust is not one that is likely to be healthy or even enjoyable for either party.Although you may be right in thinking that it would be hard for your boyfriend to break up, you still need to decide whether this is a relationship that is good for you and act accordingly.