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Posted on: 01/10/2007
Question
i was with my ex boyfriend for da past 3 years over in that time he use to beat me if i didnt have sex with him , if his freinds wanted sex with he wood hold me down 4 them to do what ever they wantd to do in da end i went to da police and he now gone to prison for 5 years, but now i find it really hard to let my new boyfriend do anything , i have told him bout what my ex has done and he says he understands but im worryed that soon he will get bored of me coz its so bad that if he touchs me i just shak and think hes going to do what my ex done.
Answer
Dear Teen: With this type of serious physical and sexual abuse in your past you are suffering from Post Traumatic Stress and need to see a professional counselor to work through this very traumatic period of your life. Hopefully your new boyfriend is kind and understanding of why you are so anxious when you are touched. It is important for you to get help so that you don't continue to have problems with this in your life.
You showed great courage to go to the police and end that nightmare, but now it is time for you to take the next step and get some psychological help. Please call RAINN (Rape and Incest National Network) 1-800-656-HOPE (http://www.rainn.org/) and they will connect you to a local counselor who can help - it is free and 24/7.