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Posted on: 03/01/2007
Question
I have been seeing someone for about 6 months. I really love him and he seems to really love me. But we have been having relationship problems. See I gripe at him a lot for stuff he does that bothers me. And he gets mad at me over stupid stuff and he's very jealous. We are seriously thinking about spending the rest of our lives together, but today he told me if i don't start being happy and stop griping so much there is no way we can get married. I told him i would work on it if he would stop getting so mad at me. He said ok. But i really need help on discussing this topic further with him and i also need help on how i should improve our relationship and stop griping at him so much. Can you help?
Answer
All I can do is to tell you that this is no way to start the rest of your life. Issues in relationships get worse over time, not better. It sounds as if you are both unhappy and need to learn some basic communication skills. If your insurance provides it, ask to see a counselor - it will give you someone to talk to and learn skills that will help you know what is OK and how to ask for what you need and want. Good luck!