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Posted on: 03/23/2007
Question
Hi, I have a question for you. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost a year now, and in that time everything has been amazing. Though we did fight alot, usually about my jealousness towards her hanging out with other people. We would always fight after. It would always get talked about and forgotten. But sometimes it wouldn't get resolved and it would build up with everything else. The last time that happened we almost broke up. We talked all night and finally worked it out. But since then, about a month ago, she hasn't been the same. She tells me she loves me with all her heart but some feelings have gone. We are never intimate, she gets easily annoyed when i try to show affection. She says she doesn't know if we'll ever be the same again. But that she would try to fix it. I'm trying so hard to make things the way they were but it is hard. Do you have any advice as to what i should do to fix our relationship?
Answer
Dear Teen: The problem with this type of jealousy is that it often stifles a relationship when your girlfriend feels she is not allowed to be with anyone else or you will get angry. You need to look at why you get so jealous and see if it is really related to your girlfriend's behavior or is it just your own insecurity. When you try to control someone else's behavior, the result is often to push them away. Try lightening up about her spending time with others as a healthy relationship should make time to do some things separately and with other people. Your willingness to understand her needs to be with others could have a very positive effect on the relationship.