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Posted on: 05/16/2007
Question
My boyfriend for 3-4 months just now told me that he is Bisexual and that he had kissed and had sex with a guy before he met me but he also had sex with other girls. Now he said that he knew he was bi for two months in our our relationship and was just scared to tell me. I don t know whether I should stay with him as his girlfriend to be closer to him and help him through it or to let him figure this out on his own and give him some space. P.S I always kind of knew that he was bi or gay from the way he talked and walked but never really like to assume things if I don t hear it from himself, and I did asked him about it and he said no.
Answer
Tough call. If you are not sexually active, then staying with him does not pose any threat to you, but if you are sexually active, then your risk of gtting a sexually transmitted infection goes up because he may be having sex with other males, too.
On the emotional side, it sounds like he lied to you and that suggests the relationship may not be worth the stress. You can be his friend, but intimacy requires honesty.
From a mom's perspective, you are way too young to be worrying about all of this - and should be finding more interesting things to do with your free time. There will be plenty of opportunity for relationships later - have fun now and be a kid.