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Posted on: 07/16/2007
Question
I have just graduated from high school dating my boyfriend of 10 months. We are both 18 years old, and have taken the sexual aspect of our relationship rather slowly, mostly restricted to kissing and some above-clothes feeling. So far, he has wonderfully respected my restrictions and limitations. We will be attending the same college, and, from our conversations about next year, I feel that he expects and is excited about us moving further. We love each other very much, and neither of us can for see any problems in the future. We expect to stay together for a long time. I want to wait until marriage to have intercourse, but I am confused about oral sex and fingering. It will be difficult to go no further over a span of 4 years in college. I want to give my virginity to my husband and want him to respect me. Whether or not I eventually marry my current boyfriend or someone else, will being fingered/engaging in oral sex defeat the purpose of waiting for actual intercourse until marriage?
Answer
I have just graduated from high school dating my boyfriend of 10 months. We are both 18 years old, and have taken the sexual aspect of our relationship rather slowly, mostly restricted to kissing and some above-clothes feeling. So far, he has wonderfully respected my restrictions and limitations. We will be attending the same college, and, from our conversations about next year, I feel that he expects and is excited about us moving further. We love each other very much, and neither of us can for see any problems in the future. We expect to stay together for a long time. I want to wait until marriage to have intercourse, but I am confused about oral sex and fingering. It will be difficult to go no further over a span of 4 years in college. I want to give my virginity to my husband and want him to respect me. Whether or not I eventually marry my current boyfriend or someone else, will being fingered/engaging in oral sex defeat the purpose of waiting for actual intercourse until marriage?