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Posted on: 07/16/2007
Question
my boyfriend and i have been talking about him fingering me, i want to do this but i have never done anything like this before and i know it will mean i bleed on his finger. But, also one of my vagina lips is black and "dead" (i cannot feel that i am touching it) at its tip. this part sticks out and the lip is larger than the other lip. Do i need to see a doctor? PLEASE HELP as i'm really worried and i dont want to tell my parents about it unless i really have to. THANK YOU
Answer
You should see a doctor immediately. You are old enough to tell your parents that you would like them to not be in the room during the exam, and the doctor should honor your privacy. Talk about your concerns and make sure the doctor sees your vaginal lip. Unless you say something, it might not be part of the exam. Good luck!
About the fingering - I am glad you are thinking about this, and hope you reconsider. It is ultimately your choice of how you lose your virginity, and when, but I would encourage you to wait. Thirteen is too young, your cervix can be damaged, you expose yourself to sexually transmitted disease, and once you start being sexual, it is hard to not "just let things happen."