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Posted on: 07/16/2007
Question
i have a real problem with teachers and kids at school and mostly everyday the kids tell me because of my attitude they always say you need to go back from where you came from and i was raised in the city and they told me i dont belong in the country and the teachers blame all the problems on me like its my fault and i feel bad and think i dont belong in this world....what should i do?
Answer
It's not easy adjusting to a new location, new peer group, new customs--others may not be fully aware of what an effort it is for you just now. Be sure to remember to not take things personally, anybody accustoming to a new setting feels strange and out of sorts. It takes time to make an acquaintance or even friend that you feel you can share with, but reaching out will pay off eventually; you might invite some new peers home with you, one at a time; they'll become more sensitive as they become more informed about your prior life. Try to talk to your teachers, school counselor, and get involved in a local teen club or activity, YMCA, a church group, etc. Continue to eat, sleep and exercise well (best building blocks for confidence), and keep up old friendships despite the new distance. Your family can be a resource following a move, as they too are trying to adjust. If things ever feel out of control or just too bad, ask for help; but remember you're the same good person you've always been, and others will start to get to know you. Summer reading can fill the time, and provide escape into captivating stories. Take care of yourself like you're your own best friend, and hang in there--good luck!