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Posted on: 08/06/2007
Question
To make this short, my problem is this: my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and have lived together for one year and we're are very much in love! Now I'm ready for the big step in our relationship...MARRIAGE! We've discussed it several times and came to the solution that I would have to finish college before we "tie the knot" and he says that is his finally answer on that topic! At first I was okay with that before I moved in with him because I had no idea how I would feel after we were together! Now that I've been with him this long I don't want to wait! And I'm not being pushy but I also have my morals tugging on my heart!!! I moved in with him in hopes to be married in the future so I did not let that bother me at first. I don't want to live in sin if you know what I mean! My boyfriend does not want to talk about it anymore and when I get in a depressive mood and feel like crying my eyes out over this he gets upset and it opens that can of worms and the "how we discussed it is final" which breaks my heart! My question is simple..how do I approach this topic with him and have a meaningful conversation with him that explains the way I feel! How can I change his mind and show him that I can go to college and hold down a job and help our new little family and be married at the same time..how do I show him I need a chance?
Answer
The fact that you cannot discuss something this important with your boyfriend suggests that the two of you have a serious communication problem. Your feelings are important and he should want you to express yourself.
It is time for you to find a counselor to talk with about this - for you! Ask your doctor or insurance company what is covered and how to find a counselor. Good luck!