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My name is --- and I'm 21 years old, an employee in an airline company. As a matter of fact, I met this first officer (Johnny) who works for the same company last year. Sometime in February 2007 I was on MSN messenger chatting to his friend when I received a message that says "be right back" and then "hello --- this is Johnny, --- went to someone else's room to pick up something and since I knew that it was you online I thought I'd chat with you"... we chatted for a while then he asked me out for coffee the next day, I agreed as it's something I have always wanted to hang out with him. The next day arrived but I didn't hear from him! I thought I should call and check what was going on. On the phone he started to apologize and said "I'm just busy studying as I have a big exam when I get back home to become a captain", and set another date for coffee which was the next day, but still the same thing happened I didn't hear from him! Couple days later, I saw him in Ross's room where we were a bunch of people having some drinks and chatting. I ignored him, but he said "Amanda I Hope you're not mad at me, I'm truly sorry!" and after 5 minutes he sent me an message while we were in the same room that says "Sweet ---, I'm sorry I don't know what to say & how to apologize to you but I assure u that we will go out for coffee soon"... After couple days I saw him on the night I was leaving to Chicago for two weeks, he was like "I hope you'll spend good time there and how long you staying? etc" After two days for me in Chicago I received an sms from him, he was checking on me and wanted me to know that he's going home and will be back after 2 months... and that was it! Days and months passed by since the last time I saw him which was on Feb. 28, until July 29, I was feeling depressed and sad, accidentally I thought of him and decided to send him an sms to tell him how rude he is and how much I hate him! He apologized and said that he should have taken me out for coffee when he asked me to, I responded with "No, I don't want your coffee and I think from that time until today it got expired!", he said "please be nice to me again, and don't expire please, because milk can expire and go sour are you sour?"
Two days ago I was at the pool and one of his colleagues next to me, we were chatting until all of a sudden Johnny showed up!!! While we were chatting he told his friend how much I hate him because of what he did... they spoke in another language for a bit then after awhile he asked me to join them out for dinner at night. I told him that I wasn't sure if I can but will give him a call and confirm, however he still wanted to know what was it that's gonna keep me busy from joining them, I finally agreed and his friend asked me to bring my sister. I went out with him and yes his friend joined us; my sister couldn't make it because she has to study for her exam. He treated me like a princess, I spent a great deal of time. He never made me pay a penny, he payed 80% of the cost of dinner and drinks we had in the pub. he even sent me an sms at night thanking me a great evening and wishing me sweet dreams. The thing is I didn't hear back from him the next day nor today! I like this person very much, but don't know what to do! I'm so confused and don't know what his behavior means!! Although i truly like him and every time i look at him i see an innocent kind gentleman. we even set a day for me to speak to him on the radio (communication between the aircraft and ground). what can you tell me??
I truly and honestly can't wait to hear back from you, i asked some friends to help me out with this but no one give a damn or care or know even an expert. i got your email from women's magazine with hope that maybe you can help me with this. johnny is leaving in two weeks to his home and he'll be back after one month, so i would so very much appreciate it if you would also send me your respond to my problem via email as soon as you can.
My very best regards to you The broken heart
Nancy Brown , Ed.S, M.A., Ph.D.