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Crush on teacher
Posted on: 12/18/2007
I am 13 and I have a crush on a male teacher at my school. I am always thinking sexual thoughts about him and I dream about having sex with him...is this wrong/bad?
Hi, Crushes on teachers are something most people can relate to no matter what their age; it is very common and familiar. It is not wrong, and nothing to be alarmed about. After all, you're in puberty, interested in sexuality, and here's a pretty together male who cares about people (including you), and you see him a lot. Now, what can be bothersome is if it is intrusive into other activities or interrupts your concentration regularly; or if it becomes obsessive and directs behavior you would otherwise think unwise; or if it just bothers you to feel this way. One thing that might help tone it down is if you simply speak normally to him, not avoid the regular student/teacher interchanges--here's why: if you avoid talking with him because you are self-conscious, you avoid being treated like a regular student (which helps put things back in perspective), and you may then have more fantasy life rule your images of him. If you talk with him occasionally, with others around, about regular class activity or material or related comments, he can interchange directly with you in regular teacher/student conversation, and again, this keep images of him a little more realistic--all this is to help you feel less self-conscious when you are at school. If you find you aren't the inhibited-type self-consciousness, but instead the opposite (e.g. hanging around him, leaving notes, or going up to him on campus when he has other things he's trying to do), then you might rein in your behavior a bit so you don't later regret having gone overboard in ways you normally don't. But all in all, your question if it's bad? No. Enjoy your friends, enjoy healthy choices and family and yourself; things like crushes will sort themselves out over time.