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Posted on: 12/26/2007
Question
For me being 15 years old I'm very worried and scared about having sex for the first time. I don't know if I will lose it while I'm still in high school. But is there anyway of telling the boy I'm a virgin still and making sure that he is not moving to fast on me or anything??
Answer
You just said it. If you feel a boy is moving too fast or pressuring you, it should be enough to say "I think you are moving too fast - I do not want to do (whatever he is asking you to do)." If he does not back off, he does not respect you or your feelings, and the relationship should end.
Believe me, if he will not listen or needs more explanation, then the relationship will be challenging. Be honest and good luck!