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Posted on: 01/22/2008
Question
How safe is it to have sex with hand i.e. hand job? Does it affect virginity? Does it affect fertility in men or women? How to test virginity in women?
Answer
If you choose to be sexually active, you can stimulate your partner using your hand. By safe - I assume you mean from sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy. If you masturbate your male partner or he masturbates you, there is very little risk of pregnancy or disease because there is no exchange of semen. If you insert a finger into your vagina, there is a chance the hymen will tear, which is the technical definition of virginity - having a hymen intact.
I think the important question is are you ready to become sexually active? If the "hand job" is a compromise - you should reconsider - it will be easy to get carried away and do things you may not be ready for, in particular vaginal intercourse, which can lead to pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.