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Posted on: 02/12/2008
Question
I'm 16 and my BF is 19. He kissed me and put his hands on private areas even when i said NO. i kept refusing but he said he wasn't doing anything wrong. He wants me to get sexually active with him. But i can't (though i want to), coz i cant break my parents' trust and i want to remain a virgin till my marriage. but he says so many people have done it, so why can't we? My friends told me to end the relationship but I'm not able to. if i continue, then i know he will force me for sex. Please guide me to the right path. All this is very depressing.
Answer
Since you have asked for my opinion, I think your friends are right and this man does not respect you, your promise to your parents, or care about your future. If he wants to marry you, tell him to talk to your father, otherwise, please stop seeing this man. He is 19 and knows that sooner or later you will give in and have sex, and then he will leave you.