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Posted on: 04/08/2008
Question
i'm 19 this year and he is 25. i'm in a dilemma of to have sex or not. My boyfriend and i started our relationship 4 months ago. i'm not sure if it's too soon to have sex. He touched my vagina the last time we cuddled. can you give me some opinion? i understand that people his age may have sexual needs, but i'm not sure if i have to give it to him.
Answer
Yes, he may feel a sexual need, but no, you are not responsible to relieve that need. He can masturbate and relieve his pressure without exposing you to the risk or pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections.
In addition, he cannot touch you without your permission - so I would stop the "cuddling" if he tends to get over stimulated. Please honor your own boundaries and do not be forced into a decision to have sex before you know you are ready.