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Posted on: 05/22/2008
Question
I believe my 16 year son and girlfriend are having sex.I have confronted them both and urged them to be careful and use protection.I encouraged her to speak with her mom about possible being placed on birth control. My question is am I stepping over the line, being that she is not my daughter? How do you suggest that I handle this? She is afraid of approaching her mom with this.
Answer
I suggest you only talk to your son - encourage him to decide that he will only be sexually active if she is using a reliable method of birth control and he provides condoms to prevent disease. That way both of them are discussing the risks and being responsible for their decision to be sexual. Then, encourage him to go with his girlfriend to your local clinic or Planned Parenthood to start the BC. You are right that this is their decision and responsibility - all you can do is guide.