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    Posted on: 12/04/2008

    Question

    I was invited to a slumber party this weekend. Even though there will be alcohol and underage drinking, I will not drink myself. I've done it, don't like it. It was scary and dangerous. My parents asked if there was going to be drinking going on and I told them No because I don't want to be "stopped" from hanging out with my friends. I'm torn. I want to be with my friends, but I don't want to be untrusted if my parents find out there was underage drinking going on.

    Answer

    I am glad you asked and that you are struggling with this question. I think you may need to tell your parents the truth and try to negotiate something with them that makes all of you feel safe.

    Alcohol is a bad idea because even if you are not drinking; the chances that there will be accidents, silly stunts, unplanned sex, etc go way up! Talking honestly with your parents is a good idea. Tell them you want them to trust you, but you do not want to be prohibited from having fun with friends.

    For example, if they trust you, and there is a better chance of that if you are honest, then maybe you can come up with an agreement that allows you to leave the party if it gets out of hand, and lets them check in with you some how to keep their anxiety in check. Good luck!


    Answered By:
    Nancy Brown , Ed.S, M.A., Ph.D.


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