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Posted on: 02/23/2009
Question
I have never dated men or women. I thought some men were cute but was not strongly attracted to them. I always however considered myself heterosexual. Recently I have strong feelings for a lesbian woman. I thought it will just disappear but it been there for almost a year now. She is the first person that I was attracted to and wanted to be with. I have sexual fantasies of both men and women but more often it is about men. Am I a bisexual, lesbian or straight woman who is just curious?
Answer
There have been some studies that suggest that sexuality is on a spectrum. This spectrum consists of a range of attraction. Some people are 100 percent attracted to someone of the opposite gender and 0 percent attracted to someone of the same gender. Some people are 0 percent attracted to the opposite gender and instead are 100 percent attracted to someone of the same gender. Many people have a varying degree of attraction to people of both genders. The terms bisexual, lesbian and straight are labels that society has used to help people identify with where on this spectrum people may lie. Sometimes these labels are not useful because they are too limiting and restrictive. If you can allow yourself to be open to your varying attractions and fantasies then you will be more likely able to truly discover your sexuality and have satisfying relationships with either gender.