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Posted on:07/06/2009
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I am going on 17 years old and in a wonderful relationship of 3 months with my boyfriend. I'm thinking about giving it up to him, but I know it will be looked down upon highly among my family members. My parents act like it's the worst thing in the world for this to happen but I think I'm ready. I'm on birth control and I know a condom will be used. Is it so bad to give it up at 16?
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Sorry, but you lost my vote at the three month part. I think at 16, you have a whole future to look forward to and that sex should be the last thing you are worried about. If this is really the relationship you want to lose it to - then wait for a year and then decide. If he does not wait and respect your decision, it was not you he was interested in.
I have seen so many broken hearts and 16 is really too young to have your heart broken. Think hard, you can never get the first time back.
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Answered By:
Nancy Brown
, Ed.S, M.A., Ph.D.
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