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Posted on: 07/30/2009
Question
My boyfriend and I have already done oral sex (blowjob) and he's fingered me, but I'm not sure if I'm ready to go all the way. I know that he is. How do I tell him I'm not ready for sex yet without hurting him?
Answer
Tell him loud and clear that you are not ready. I also suggest you stop the sexual activity, because it is likely giving him the idea that you are just "getting closer" to sexual intercourse with the other sexual behavior. Please be careful. You are just too young for the risks associated with sex, including pregnancy, sexually transmitted infections, and most importantly, a broken heart.