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Posted on: 03/12/2010
Question
I was harassed on a bus last night. A strange man standing close to me kept touching my shoulder with his penis. I didn't realize it until I turned aside and found it was completely out. It's like a nightmare.I feel depressed, disgusting and afraid to go outside since then. I totally lost confidence in men. How many men hold ugly, evil things in their hearts? How can I tell and what kind of stance will I take toward them? I appreciate your reply.
Answer
Your incident on the bus would upset anyone. Unfortunately, there are individuals who are not well adjusted and who behave in unbalanced or offensive ways. Fortunately, they are the minority. Remember, he acted inappropriately, you did nothing wrong. It is natural to feel disgusted with such an event. However, if you've become depressed, or find you are isolating yourself because of one incident, it is best if you talk with someone about it. Talk to people who are close emotionally to you and can be counted on to support you. If you don't feel there are family members or friends who would listen well, then find a counselor or therapist. You need support in returning to your normal activities and developing a stronger sense of yourself.
Sometimes a martial arts or self-defense class can empower you to not feel at the mercy of other people or incidents. Yoga, dance and exercise are also very empowering as well as relaxing. This world is your playground and you get to play in it. Good luck!
Sometimes a martial arts or self-defense class can empower you to not feel at the mercy of other people or incidents. Yoga, dance and exercise are also very empowering as well as relaxing. This world is your playground and you get to play in it. Good luck!