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- Know your body -
Females have pleasure zones just like males. An interesting fact is that the male and female genitalia come from the same set of embryo tissue cells. In the womb, during the first trimester, genetics and hormone exposure typically directs this tissue to develop into male genitalia or female genitalia. The nerves and sensations are thus similar in the male external genital area, penis, scrotum, etc. as with the female external genital area, vulva, first part of the vagina, etc. For example, the penis of a man and clitoris of a woman are from the same set of cells and experience similar pleasurable sensations when touched. There are many Web sites where you can learn more about the biological and anatomical aspects of your body and erogenous zones. One such site is Bodyteen.com (http://www231.pair.com/grpulse/bt/ansuf.html).
If you are comfortable with the idea of touching yourself, try masturbating to learn what you like and what you don't like and about orgasms. Other pleasurable areas may include the neck, lips, breasts, inside of your elbow or wrist, etc. It differs for every female.
- Talk openly with your partner -
Females can have orgasm during sex. If you find there are certain touches, pressure, movements that you like, discuss this with your partner. Or ask your partner to help explore this with you. People differ in their preferences. Your partner will need to learn about your likes and dislikes. Explore other ways of touching such as massage, kissing, caressing and don't be afraid to go back a step and stop having sex until you build more intimacy and understanding with your partner.
- Be patient with yourself -
You're not alone with this feeling. Many experience such frustrations and it's not going to be perfect every time. Also, be sure you take the time to learn how to protect yourself from unintended pregnancy (web link - http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/pregnancy/) and/or sexually transmitted diseases or infections (web link - http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/std/).
Tara Brown, Teen Group Advisor