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Posted on: 12/17/2010
Question
Should I stay with him? Okay, me and my boyfriend have been together for seven months, three weeks and two days! I found out he had has sex with this older chick who is 18 and he's 20. That girl was his "ex girlfriend"! And since I told him I was not ready yet to have sex with him, he told me he was desperate. I asked him ?why can't you wait?? And he said that having sex relaxes him! So I literally dumped him the moment I found out he had done that! But then we got back together and I promised him we would have sex! Even though I'm not read yet at all! I don't know what to do. Please Help
Answer
Your instincts were right the first time. Please dump him again and do not have sex with him because you think it will keep him attached to you. He will not stay for sex and if sex relaxes him, he can masturbate. Please find someone who respects you and will love you for you - not for sex.
P.S. he is too old for you!