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Posted on: 03/28/2011
Question
I have a serious problem. My mom found out I am sexually active with my boyfriend of 2 1/2 years. She found out in an angry letter I wrote and she also read about a pregnancy test I took that was negative. She kicked me out of the house and I lived with him for about a week. This took her to wanting to commit suicide for some reason. She's also diabetic. She was in the hospital for three nights then transferred to a Crisis Clinic for one night and one full day. The thing is: I'm afraid I am pregnant. I am so afraid to tell her because of what happened with her just finding out that I had sex. I don't know what to do! My boyfriend's parents found out because my mom called them and they really understood everything, unlike my mom. They'll be disappointed but nothing else. My mom might harm me because her nerves. Please help!
Answer
First, you need to find out if you are pregnant and if you are, seek help through Planned Parenthood or with a confidential meeting with your doctor.
Either of these professionals can refer you for counseling to talk through how to communicate safely with your mother. If you are not pregnant, you need to make sure your birth control method is totally trustworthy and not take chances with an unwanted pregnancy. It is difficult to have a mother who is emotionally unstable and you need professional help with how to manage the situation.