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Posted on: 09/23/2011
Question
When I was six, I was sexually abused by a cousin of mine aged 16. Although his entire penis didn't go (penetrate) into my vagina, I felt the cap of his penis in the opening of my vagina. Now I'm 17 and wondering if I am still a virgin because I've never had sex.
Answer
I am so sorry that you were sexually abused. I hope that you will not worry about that experience as having ruined your virginity because it was not a choice, it was an act of violence. You have not chosen to be sexual and therefore are a virgin. Anyone that argues is not good enough for you!