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Feel guilty and no libido
Posted on: 09/23/2011
Two weeks before my 20th birthday in april I had sex for the first time when I was way too drunk at a party I was hosting. The guy that I had sex with I had only met that night and I hadn't even intended on anything happening. I went in my room and laid down after puking for a little bit and he came in and I unconsciously had sex even though I was awake. I feel beyond guilty and I never wanted it to go down like that. I have not had sex then and have had no libido what so ever, What's wrong with me?
I am so sorry that your first experience was so awful and it is perfectly normal for you to feel the way you do. Basically, he took advantage of you and if you did not consent, it was rape. The trauma explains your feelings and you will feel better if you talk everything through with a counselor. Please call or visit RAINN (http://www.rainn.org) and check our our trauma recovery pages (http://www.pamf.org/teen/life/trauma/) for self-guided support.