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    Behavior Issues with Children

    Some of the most difficult challenges for a parent are their child's behavioral problems. Unlike an injury or disease, the "cure" is not always evident. Added is the fact that as a child grows, his or her personality is also developing and constantly changing. Almost overnight, the quiet three year old can suddenly become a disruptive four year old.

    It is important for parents to understand the changes that a child goes through during each phase of development. This means that "rules" will need to change as the child grows and becomes more independent. The rules you use at eight will probably not be effective with a 13 year old.

    Parents should decide what behaviors are going to be acceptable and what behavior will not be tolerated based on the age and development of the child. These guidelines of behavior are important for the child to feel secure in a structured environment. "No rules" often leads to chaos in the family and can leave long-lasting problems in the child. On the other hand, too much structure or too many rules that don't allow a child to grow, can lead to behavioral problems.

    In this section, you'll learn more about dealing with behavior issues and some of the most common problems that parents face. If you or your partner ever feel that you have "lost control" of a child, make sure to speak with a physician.


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    Sources

    Below are links PAMF accessed when researching this topic. PAMF, however, does not sponsor or endorse any of these sites, nor does PAMF guarantee the accuracy of the information contained on them.

    Child Behavior: What Parents Can Do to Change Their Child's Behavior. Useful outline of ways of discourage "bad" behavior and encouraging "good" behavior in children. Accessed January 2008.

    Child and Adolescent Mental Health National Institute of Mental Health. Accessed April 2013.
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