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Communication

Communication or talking to other people and understanding what others say is very important in your life. If people did not communicate, we wouldn't be able to know what others wanted, what to do or where to go. If you are in class, and you do not understand something, you ask. Then you listen to the explanation and understand what you did not understand earlier.

Communication is also important if you have pent-up emotions. If the feelings are bad or sad, and you do not express them, they can start to make you disagreeable and/or distraught. If the feelings are happy, they might make you overly spunky or giddy. If you have pent-up feelings, talk to someone about them. Or we suggest running laps for your friends' and parents' sake!

During great disturbances in your life, such as a move, school change or parents' divorce, it is a good idea to talk to people so you can deal with your feelings and move on, making the best of the situation. If you do not want to talk to your parents, try your friends or siblings, or else a counselor, therapist or doctor. The crucial thing is to express your feelings. Otherwise, these feelings can get stuck inside your head, circle around and never get out, and lead to problems with focus, sleep and relaxation.

Communication involves talking and listening--they go hand in hand. Relationships are two-sided; each person has a responsibility to make themselves heard and to hear other people. If you are always listening, or if you are always talking, the relationship is not balanced.

Remember to express yourself. In the end, you will feel better. Signs of good communication include the ability to express your needs, wants and feelings. Think about what you want from the communication; define specific goals and a specific message. Decide the best outcome you would be satisfied with, and work to achieve your goal. A key to successful communication is not to blame the other person. Use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. Express how you feel instead of blaming the other person. Setbacks may occur, but keep working at it!