A Story About Racial Differences
Change happens to everyone. Whether it is good or bad, we have to adjust, and what matters most is how we adjust to that change.
Fighting the change or pretending it did not happen usually creates more drama and conflict, but sometimes we just cannot help ourselves. Adjusting to change and finding a "new normal" is more productive and just feels better.
Sargun's Story About Race
I have never cut my hair. I have black hair, a long braid, brown skin, and I am a Sikh. When I was little, I felt my parents pretty much did everything to make me stand out, not fit in with the "norm."
Where all my friends talked about new hairstyles, their freckles, and getting sunburned on their fair pale skin, I sat there not being able to relate to any of those things.
But as I grew up, I realized "norm" doesn't mean twinning up with the rest of world, it means finding a place where you are accepted as you are. So what if I didn't get haircuts, I could talk about all the different hairstyles I could do with my hair.
My friends loved playing with my hair and were even envious of my "tan" skin. I was accepted as I was – long braid, brown skin, and all. I could rant to my friends about my friend troubles or parent fights, and knew I was understood. This was my "norm" – being acknowledged as I was.
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high school student writer
Reviewed By: Nancy Brown, Ph.D.
Last Reviewed: October 2013
"I note the obvious differences between each sort and type, but we are more alike, my friends, than we are unalike."For More Information:
– Maya Angelou
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