How To Make New Friends
Friendships are essential components of our lives. They fuel our happiness and success. Friends cheer us up when we are feeling down and encourage us to keep going when we are feeling lost. They are there to share our greatest accomplishments and there when things are looking rough. Making new friends can indeed be difficult especially when moving to college or changing jobs, and having to start all over. Meeting the right people that you tick with can be hard, but if you keep an open mind you can end up creating long lasting friendships that will stay with you forever.
- Where can I meet new friends?
- Still having a hard time making friends?
- You made some friends. Now keep them.
When creating new friendships, it’s helpful to figure out what kind of friend you are. What is your attitude towards others? How do you treat people? You are treated the same way you treat others. For example, try not to gossip when making new friends. Chances are potential friends will think you gossip about them too.
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Where can I meet new friends?
There are many places to meet potential new friends. Many people make their friends at work. Be sure to participate in Friday night drinks and do not miss out on an opportunity to go have lunch with coworkers.
What are your interests and hobbies? If you like sports, join a sports team. You will then have a whole team of new friends. If you like to volunteer and help your community, joining a volunteer group is an excellent way of meeting people. The possibilities are endless.
Never turn down a party invitation. Individuals that attend parties are often times friendly, outgoing and open to new friendships. Do not expect to make friends in a day or two. Take potential friendships slowly to not drive them away.
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Still having a hard time making friends?
For some people making friends isn’t as easy as attending a party or joining a sports team. Some lack social skills and are too shy to approach a person and strike or even keep a conversation. In order to battle these issues a little easier:
- Join an organization that shares the same interests as you do. That way you will always have something to talk about.
- If possible, scope out the people who make friends easily at social gatherings. What are their mannerisms and what do they do to strike and keep conversation? Watch and learn.
- Maintain eye contact with a potential friends. Looking around or down shows the person you are conversing with that you are not interested in what they are saying.
- Listening is key. You need let people know that you are genuinely interested in them and would be a good friend to come to when in need.
- Always smile! Smiling shows you are friendly, are having a good time and open to the new friendship.
- If none of these approaches work, look for someone in the room that is just as shy or socially awkward. Chances are they are also dying to make a friend but are too shy to do so. Take the first step and light up their day.
- Always a good start to ask people about themselves and what they like to do when striking a conversation.
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You made some friends. Now keep them.
Making a friend is only the first step of creating a friendship. The second is to know how to keep your friendships healthy and growing. Here are a few things you can do to fuel your friendships and make them long lasting:
- Be sure to appreciate and acknowledge your friends: Always thank your friends for their constant support and for bringing enrichment to your life. Ask them to hang out, do something you both enjoy and spend quality time together enjoying each other's company.
- Offer your time and attention: Do not make yourself too busy for your friends. If you do so, they will move on to other friendships that offer them greater support. Friendships should be one of your set priorities. Listen to your friends and be there for them and their needs.
- Show compassion: Sometimes you may not agree with the actions your friends take. Learn to accept that your friends may not always take the same route as you. Be supportive and know that if you were in their shoes, you would want their support as well.
- Trust is key: If your friends tell you their biggest secret, be sure the secret stays with you. Do not compromise a good friendship by leaking out secrets that were trusted upon you. If your friends find out you gave out their secret, your friendship is as good as over.
- Keep jealousy on a leash: Sometimes it’s hard to see your best friend create good friendships with others. This causes jealousy and hurt feelings. Control your jealousy as jealousy often times than not ruins friendships. Learn that even though your best friend is making new friends, s/he still loves you just as much.
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